Firstly, it’s very important to know the vampire of your life. They have certain characteristics –
The first mistake we do is to expect people to change. Don’t burden yourself with the responsibility to uplift their vibration because the more you pay your attention to them, the more will they drain you out. The fact is that they will never change. They may make promises to change, but they will never keep those. They have that immense capacity to change YOU and your vibrations. Steer clear off their sight.
3. Show the red flag
Esther and Jerry Hicks in their book ‘The Law of Attraction – The Basics of the Teachings of Abraham’has mentioned “If someone is in your life, you have attracted them. And while it is sometimes difficult to believe, you also attract everything about your experience with them-for nothing can come into your experience without your personal attraction of it.” So according to the basics of Law of Attraction if you can’t control your mind, control yourself meeting them. Deliberately avoid them.
4. Stand your ground
There are toxic people whom you cannot deliberately avoid or ignore. The best way to deal with them is to stand one’s own ground and tell them right on their face that their behaviour is not at all acceptable and you don’t want to talk to them right now. They will try to drag you into an argument, but you need to stay calm and composed and sneak your way out of their sight.
If you are forced into some toxic situation don’t take it personally. Practise compassion and detachment. Look into the situation from objective point of view as a third person. Have compassion and don’t take their toxic behaviour personally. It’s nothing to do with your character, it’s all their fault…you need not to take share of their fault out of any guilt. Detaching yourself mentally from the outer toxic reality will help you stay composed. Only believe in yourself.
6. Stay out of crises
Whatever the situation may be, don’t drag yourself into the crises. Detachment means not only emotional detachment, but also physical detachment. If you face any such situation where you feel suffocated, quickly try to stay out of it. Being part of some one’s anger or negativity will be of no help. It will only aggravate your problems. Be polite enough to say NO and step out of the situation.
7. Be the empath
A little lending of ear, empathy and a little motivation can change an utterly frustrated soul. If you feel that you can motivate them towards light without being lost into darkness yourself, that would have been the best job in your life.
8. Know your limitations
You should have a clear idea where to step in and where to step out. A psychopath needs a psychiatrist, not you. Be clear cut in your dealings with them. Consult a psychologist as early as possible and that will be the best help ever.
9. Be in the positive vibes zone
Surround yourself with people who can raise your vibrations. There are plenty of happy souls out there. You just need to be in the right place and with the right people. Healthy relationships with positive people will boost your self esteem and firm your belief in the goodness of the world. You will not be affected by negative peoples so easily.